Jane M. Young
If you are recently widowed, you probably don’t have the energy or the interest to take care of all the legal and financial issues that need to be dealt with. You may be emotionally exhausted from the loss of what really matters in your live. It is probably difficult to focus on all of the paperwork and the financial issues confronting you. At the same time, there is a nagging fear that important issues aren’t being addressed and this is creating more stress. You aren’t yourself and won’t be for quite some time. You need a way to simplify, organize and prioritize those activities that must be addressed immediately and postpone those that can wait until the fog has cleared. Be easy on yourself, this is normal, you will start to feel more like yourself in about a year but you may still feel a little fuzzy for up to three years. Most importantly, remember to take your time and avoid making any major decisions for a couple of years. Focus on what must be dealt with immediately and work through these issues in a methodical manner. Getting organized and taking care of the necessities should provide you with some peace of mind and help ease the stress you are feeling. Here are some activities that need to be addressed right away. Most other decisions and changes can be addressed a little later.
First Financial Steps:
Get organized – Establish in-boxes or a simple filing system for all of your incoming correspondence. Separate your mail by bills and urgent, long term or non-urgent and personal correspondence. You may need to wait a few days or weeks to address the urgent paperwork but you want to be sure nothing is lost. Be very observant of correspondence regarding assets and liabilities that you may not have known about.
Get about 20 copies of the Death Certificate
Cover your immediate cash flow needs – Review all or your bills, credit card statements and checking accounts to determine what your monthly expenses have been. Review your current cash position and income sources to make sure you will have enough to cover your expenses for the next six months. At this time you should focus on short term liquidity needs. You may need to move some money around to cover your short term expenses.
Pay your current bills – Pay current bills that you know are legitimate. Be cautious not to pay bills that seem suspicious or may have already been paid.
Pull together all of your important documents – You will need this to determine what you have to deal with and what paperwork needs to be processed. Below is a list of the documents you may need.
Death Certificate
Marriage Certificate
Wills, Powers of Attorney and Trusts
Pre and Post Nuptial Documents
Bank Statements
Investment Statements
Home, Auto, Health and Life Insurance Policies
Tax Returns
Business and Partnership Agreements
Deeds on home and property
Credit Card Statements
Employee Benefits
Veteran’s Benefits
Mortgage Statement and loan document
Titles and loan information on vehicles
Safe Deposit Boxes
Do a full inventory of your assets and liabilities – This will be needed to settle the estate and to determine what paperwork needs to be processed. It will also provide you with information on your overall, long term financial situation. You may want to consult or hire a financial planner to assist you with this process. Be sure to work with someone who has experience working with widows and widowers, preferably a CFP who works on a fee-only basis (not compensated for the sale of products).
Notify spouse’s employer and apply for employee/survivor benefits
Apply for Social Security, Veterans and Pension Benefits
Select and hire an attorney to help you settle the estate – An attorney can help with your appointment as the personal representative and to walk you through the activities required to settle the estate. Ask trusted friends, family and colleagues for referrals and perform your own due diligence to select the right attorney for your situation.
Collect on Life Insurance or Annuity death benefits – Don’t be in a rush to invest this money. Initially place it in a money market or somewhere safe until you have more energy and interest in making longer term investment decisions.
Contact Home, Auto, Health and Long Term Care Insurance Companies – Make sure you are still adequately covered
Do not make any major decisions – Avoid making any major decisions, especially financial decisions regarding investments, insurance or real estate for at least a year. Be very apprehensive of anyone pressuring you to make a quick decision. Opportunities will still be out there when you are ready to make a decision. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. Be especially cautious about unscrupulous sales people who target widows.
Update your will, beneficiaries and powers of attorney
File tax returns




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